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Spinal Surgery Recovery in Mexico: The Other Side of Strong

Spinal Surgery Recovery in Mexico: The Other Side of Strong

I hobbled into my son’s room with socks in my hands and tears in my eyes. “Liam, buddy”, I called to him, “Can you please help me put these on?”, but before I could get the words out he caught me mid-sentence, “Oh Mama, do you need my help?”

I was only a few days home from the spinal surgery that would release me from the bounds of a wheelchair and the tears fell without restraint, “Yes please son, like a little baby, could you please help me?”

Down on his knees, my 11-year-old boy, without hesitation, helped me, one by one—with patience, love and great care—to put my socks on my half-frozen feet. I could not have done it myself had my life had depended on it. Frustrating and humbling indeed and an experience of defeat that I was determined to not have as a long-term reality.

Spinal Surgery Recovery in Mexico: The Other Side of Strong

Winter in the desert highlands of Central Mexico, twelve pounds lighter and an unexpected three liter blood loss had me chilled to the bones, fragile and wobbly on the tile floors of our home.

The magnitude of the despair and helplessness I felt in the hospital as I lay like a turtle on my back (not knowing what my outcome would be) paled in comparison to the gratitude, pride and love I felt from my son’s awareness, perceptiveness and generous act of love and kindness. What a gift.

Don’t ever take bending over, crouching down or being able to do for yourself in any fashion for granted (think, putting your own underwear on). I know I won’t. This is not to say that I lived a life without gratitude pre-spinal surgery for certainly I did not, but you just don’t know how lucky you are and how good you have it until it is taken away from you, sometimes, in the blink of an eye. Truly, it is the little things and the totality of them that make up one’s quality of life. 

I met a ski instructor on our recent trip to Colorado whose 18-year-old son is “in a chair” as he told me, due to a skiing accident in which he broke his neck. He asked how long I had been in one, and with great emotion for the permanent outcome and reality of his son’s accident, I told him “only a week and a half”. An incredibly hard pill to swallow for that boy and his family and a big dose of perspective for me when I was lamenting over not being able to get on the slopes with my family. My time will come again—not so much so, or in the same way, for that young man.

I, like many of us in this earthly experience, have been through some trying times–physically and emotionally. I was only less than six months out from my abdominal surgery when this spinal one hit me like a freight train–two major back-to-back surgeries in less than six months! 

I give thanks every single day that I am no longer partially paralyzed or wheelchair bound and that destiny and fate had other plans for me. I give thanks every day that in both surgeries, I had a team of doctors here in Central Mexico that literally saved and gave me my life back. Thank you, thank you, mil gracias.

These have been a very trying past two and a half months, but things are getting better and I am getting stronger every day. Our recent three-week trip to the States proved to be something of a reset for me and a necessary distancing from the home that has held my pain and struggles of recovery from two major surgeries.

I have never been a sit around, sedentary, lazy kind of person. Don’t get me wrong, I like my relax and kick back time, but I also choose to be productive and have creative, body-challenging and mind-engaging movement as part of my daily round.

Exercise and physical activity have always been a great source of empowerment, meditation, “me-time”, re-grouping, re-centering and re-charging. Having this personal and physical freedom taken away from me—with no guarantee of its return—has been incredibly challenging and has forced me to dig deeper than I ever have before.

Sometimes one has to mix things up to spearhead ourselves into a new state, a new and better frame of mind. Undoubtedly those 10 days in snowy Colorado kicked myself into another realm of recovery. Navigating myself like the stay puft marshmallow man in 10 layers of clothing and shin-high snow boots was no small feat. But it engaged my mind, and slow and steady like the turtle, I made my way from point A to B and came out on the other side stronger and more confident. 

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Katie O’Grady





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About the author: Internationally-Acclaimed Author & Relocation Coach Katie O’Grady is a 4th generation San Diegan who together with her retired Firefighter hubby and their now 15-year-old twins immigrated to Mexico in 2012. Los O’Gradys in Mexico is InterNations Top Expat Mexico Blog and has been featured on various distinguished platforms including Elephant Journal, Yucatan Times, and Huffington Post. Seven years into their Mexico adventure, Katie and her family continue to embrace their reinvented, reinspired lives where tacos and fun are part of their daily round! If you are interested in learning about raising bilingual, bicultural, cross-border children and creating a life of design, feel free to contact Katie at [email protected] and on the following platforms: Facebook Instagram Pinterest

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  • Sherri Chessen January 29, 2016, 11:24 am

    God made tears for when words were insufficient.
    This is such a time for me.
    I love you all and my heart suffers along with you.
    So proud of your love and strength, Katie.

    • Katie O'Grady January 29, 2016, 11:31 am

      Thank you Sherri…
      That means so very much to me.
      Much love,

  • Katie O'Grady January 29, 2016, 2:29 pm

    Because posts get further and further down on a Facebook feed, I have copied and pasted these FB comments to my blog in a desire to have a permanent record of them. Thank you all for your contributions and comments. ~Katie

    Donna J. Quinton:
    Great Read Katie and Change is good it teaches us to be flexible and happy. Much love!

    Trevor Gregg:
    Well written youngster! You have experienced more than most do in a lifetime. It hasn’t beaten you down, but made you a better person. You go into your next chapter of life with a wealth of knowledge few attain.
    I challenge you to do one thing: take all the writings that you have complied and start preparing for the book that is sure to come. Don’t wait until there is too much information to handle.
    Hopefully I’ll be around to read it!

    Kate Loomis Healy:
    So proud of you Katie- You are incredible and are constantly challenging yourself. Good luck with your next adventure and don’t let the jerks get you down…something is wrong with them:) Hugs and kisses and lots of good luck!

    Mary Jo Miller:
    You tell ’em Katie O’Grady. I’m certain your appreciative followers far outweigh the negative nellies. Your truth and candor are really refreshing and I am excited to continue to follow you and Frank and the Reds journey. Namaste

    Renee Lotta:
    Love it well said Katie! I enjoy reading all your deep hearted life journeys. Your transparency is so appreciated. I like others would love to see you but girl when you are on a mission you have to be on course. We love you and your family and hopefully in the future we will cross paths. Until then mi querida familia we will continue to support the life you have chosen for you and your beautiful family. Keep writing it’s such a blessing to me. I wish you complete healing and strength to enjoy those things you love and desire♡

    Larry Ruth:
    Wow that is quite a read. Follow the path you trust in. God be you and your family

    Fatima Nieto:
    What a great woman and human being you are. My admiration always. God bless!

  • Jill February 2, 2016, 5:17 pm

    Oh, my! I had no idea you were going through all that! Glad to hear that it sounds like things are finally looking up for you. I look forward to reading your continued adventures, wherever they take you! (Because it sounds like wherever you go, you´ll make an adventure out of it.) 😉

    • Katie O'Grady February 2, 2016, 10:08 pm

      Hi Jill,

      Thanks so much for popping in! I have enjoyed looking at your blog and your many adventures!

      I am starting to get a spunk back to my step….tomorrow marks 3 months since my surgery. I am singing my surgeon’s praises and my own ability to pick myself up from the bootstraps!

      I am grateful that I get to adventure on…


      Katie 🙂

  • Barbara Lane February 5, 2016, 7:08 pm

    Katie Darling – I hope you are so proud. You have reason to be. And on the hard days? Remember God said it came to pass, He didn’t say it came to stay.


    • Katie O'Grady February 5, 2016, 9:39 pm

      Sweet Barbara,
      Thank you for such a lovely message.
      I couldn’t agree more.
      🙂 Katie

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